Thursday, August 07, 2008

A letter to the bride....

....From 2000 Dollar Wedding bride, Sara....

Dearest Bride-to-Be:
The 12-18 months of wedding planning will pass in a matter of hours or days. When it’s all said and done, the photos will be the primary artifact remaining.

My wish for you—when you look back at those photos—is for you to think:
Look at how relaxed I was. Fully present in the moment. Basking in it. Soaking it in. I was not saturated in stress.

My shoes and dress were comfortable enough for dancing. My beauty radiated out of me; it was not applied to me.

I got to spend quality time with my friends and family. I was myself, not a show. In fact, I was my fullest expression of self.

I do not remember whether the invitations were letterpress or whether the flowers at the ceremony were the same ones at the reception.

The wedding favors or the fanciness of the food did not make memories. The sincerity did. The connection did. The time together did.

It did not matter whether every last detail conformed to the signature colors. Instead of saying, “What a beautiful bouquet,” the guests said, “What a beautiful love.”
This is my wish to you, dear brides, as you pore over wedding magazines and read daily blogs. Some of it matters. Most of it does not. Casting your net in the wrong direction will most surely mean you miss the things you most dearly want to catch.
May your wedding be just one sincere, authentic, happiest day in a long line of many.
This is my wish to you.
All my best,

What words of wisdom.

Breath, and relax.... (a note to self.)


  1. Thank you for drawing our attention to this... it's beautiful.

  2. This should come with our Engagement Rings... tucked away in the Box.. Or perhaps should be the first page of every Bridal Magazine !!!

    Thank you for sharing this.. it's wonderful !

  3. thank you for sharing!

    just wanted to let you know that you're up on 122rollcall :)

  4. Guilty, isn't it lovely. I'm going to print it out and take it with me when we leave on Monday.

    Bertie, they are, aren't they!

    Blind Irish Pirate (by the way, I love your name!) it is so beautiful.

    Browneyedcountrygirl, it certainly should. Although I can't imagine the wedding mag advertisers being too thrilled with it!

    Ms. 122, thank you!

  5. Just have fun! That's my advice. Let loose and enjoy being around family. Give yourself time for fun.


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