Wednesday, August 27, 2008


Hey there loyal readers who are still dutifully coming back every day to check if I've broken my wedding silence. And phooey to the rest of you, who are abandoning me like scared guests from a wedding where the bride has had one too many signature drinks and the groom was caught ogling the bridesmaids leading to a full on brawl on the dance floor.

A huge huge thank you to all of you for your lovely comments, emails and posts over the last two weeks, they have really meant the world to me and each and every one of you has made me smile so very much. I know you are all itching to hear about the wedding and I am itching to find the words to describe what was a truly wonderful week with some really hideous bits. Because unfortunately, due to a rather horrible experience with our venue on the day of the wedding which has left me distinctly traumatised, the traditional if slightly unimaginative 'It was perfect!!' just won't suffice when it comes to a brief but informative recap.

(Oooh, exciting aside - the phone just ran and I called The Boy 'my husband' for the first time! Shame it had to be to the police.)

I'm also completely overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of photos we have of the wedding, 2270 to be exact and we're still waiting for the professional ones. I just need to look at them and my brain threatens to explode.

So instead I'm going to distract you with my two new favourite wedding blogs.

Baby, Picture This is the blog of an English girl with lovely taste, a Jenny Packham dress and a flair for gorgeous photography.

Baby, Picture This's maid of honour's dress.
Photo by Baby, Picture This

The second is I Hate Planning My Wedding, a hilarious blog written anonymously by a woman whose family seem to be doing their very best to drive her completely mad and for whom wedding planning is a horribly battle pushing her further and further down the road to alcoholism. A woman after my own heart in other words. She truly cracks me up and satisfies that part of me that is really really pissed off with weddings and wedding venues in particular.

Not that I didn't have a wonderful time and the wedding wasn't utterly wonderful. I did, and it was. It's just that the venue let us down so spectacularly, behaved it such a shitty way to us, our friends and our families that when I think of the wedding those wonderful memories that include moments where I was happier than I could ever have imagined I would be are competing with memories that make me really, really fucking angry.

So, give me a little time. I will find the words, I will figure out the photos, I will share with you the delights and horrors of getting married. I just need a little longer. Thank you for your patience.

Oh, and the police have nothing to do with the wedding, the venue wasn't that bad. We woke up to discover our poor little car had been broken into. Glass everywhere, glove compartment rummaged though, embarrassing medications scattered all over the passenger seat for our distinctly unfriendly neighbours to giggle at. There was nothing worth stealing in it though, we have the crappiest car in the street. It's the only one that looks like instead of an alarm going off if you breath near it, the driver's door might fall off. Removing the need to bother yourself with smashing the window.


  1. I'm so glad to hear from you but so sorry to hear things didn't go quite how you would have hoped. I'm sure over time the bad memories will fade into insignificance and the wonderful ones will take over.

    2270 photos! Wow!

    I think you forgot the link to Baby, Picture This.

    Big hugs and congratulations again... here's hoping for more 'my husband' moments and less 'the police' ones in the coming weeks.

  2. so sorry you had trouble with your venue - we did too, with them cancelling 3 months before our wedding! arrgh nightmare! im sure it was a truely wonderful day dispite whatever happened tho and i have been one of the loyal (or loser) readers who have been checking back everyday to see if you've updated for posted pictures!
    oh..and isn't calling your man your 'husband' the greatest thing ever!?!

  3. Sorry to hear things went wrong but congratulations on being married. x

  4. oh..also, there seems to be no link to baby, picture this..i wanna see!

    oh i've just noticed, guilty has alerted you to this also... ah well

  5. Waiting with baited breath for your pictures & words, so sorry that not all went to plan for your perfect day!

    Your wonderful blog had filled my head with so many ideas for my day back in May and i just wanted to say a huge thank you and congratulations. May all be perfect from now on in x

  6. I'm so sorry to hear that not everything went as planned :(
    I can't wait to hear all about the great memories and see the pictures from your day. Our wedding is next Saturday and your blog has given me so much inspiration. Congratulations again!

  7. Aww Peonies, I like everyone else am so sorry to hear that it didn't go exactly to plan, but am so so happy for you, and at least you have the husband ( formerly known as the boy) to show for it!

    Can't wait for the pictures and am sure we'll all jointly bitch about your venue woes which may go someway to making you feel better :)

    And finally, thank you so much for the lovely things you said about my blog! If it's anywhere near as insprational/funny/individual as yours, I'll be happy. Ah, isn't mutual blog love grand?!

    Enjoy being married in between posting!


  8. i stole these words of advice from for my blog the other day:

    they're not perfect, but they are fantastic, and sometimes fantastic is better than perfect. wouldn't you agree?

    well, is talking about hair accessories, but i like to apply it to weddings.

    congratulations on the husband!

    thanks for so much inspiration on the way!

  9. I wholeheartedly trust that your wedding day was still as beautiful as you had hoped it would be, venue snafu aside. :-)

  10. I suddenly suspected you had posted something today! I think that means you rocked the imperfict test :)
    I can't wait to hear all about it!!!

  11. Ok, now I am REALLY intrigued! Big middle finger to your wedding venue, but I wanna figure out why we are giving them said middle finger.

    Please sort thru your gorgeous wedding porn and post soon! Give us a little something! Throw us a bone!

  12. So sorry to hear that the venue let you down. :( But it's absolutely fantastic that you we're able to say 'my husband' today! I can't wait for that. And I can't wait to see your photos, either! Looking forward to your next post~

  13. I'm so happy you are back! I'm definitely not one of those guests, abandoning you right in the middle of the party.

    Just remember your own advice: you hoped that your wedding would NOT be the best day of your life.

    Here's to lots of imperfect days to come.

  14. Oh, Peony! I'm SO sad and angry at the same time for you about the venue's behavior. It's perfectly horrible to spend so much time, energy, thought, and worry on something so that it goes "right" and then have someone else help it go "wrong".... My heart goes out to you. Don't jip yourself of being angry. It's the only real way (that I know of) of having it eventually pass out of you for good. And as Jenna said, at some point you'll remember you're thrilled that it wasn't the most perfect day... That means that one is still to come... xo.

  15. Your right, I've been checking everyday.

    I'm sorry the venue let you down, I hope one day like Guilty said the bad feelings will fade *hugs*

  16. I am so sad that your day had a shadow!!! I wish I could have been there to whip that venue into shape! I am anxious to see photos. And, I hope you can find a way to focus on the good stuff!!

  17. take your time and enjoy your husband :) YOUR HUSBAND!!! yay!

  18. How awful for you how dreadful at such a time.I hope you ar ok after the shock.

  19. Congratulations. I've been reading your blog for a while but I don't think I've ever posted before.

    I'm so sad for you that the venue wasn't everything you hoped. But obviously glad that you did get married.

    Take care. And post soon...I've been checking back obsessively.

  20. waiting anxiously in the wings to hear your tales of venue stress. waiting extremely impatiently to see photos.

  21. I'm so sorry that things didn't go as planned, but all the same, we're so happy you're back! congratulations MRS peonies!

  22. Guilty, thank you. The bad memories are starting to fade fast. Thank goodness! The photos are truly overwhelming. Thanks for pointing out the missing link!

    Kat, thank you for your loyalty! Honestly, it freaked me out a bit calling him 'my husband'. He's been 'my boyfriend' for a lonnnng time!

    Rachel, thank you!

    Thanks Kat, I've added it in!

    Ruthie, thank you! I'm so glad that I helped inspire you and congratulations on your marriage!

  23. Melissa, I'll be thinking on you this weekend. I hope that it all goes wonderfully and that if there are any imperfections they are far out-weighed by wonderfulness.

    Babypicturethis, thank you and you're very welcome! It certainly does help to hear everyone join me in bitching about the buggers!

    Desert Bride, thank you so much for your comment. I had a great time last night reading through your lovely blog. I can't wait to hear more about your day and your inspiration!

  24. Vanessa, thank you. It really was!

    Meg, our wedding kicked Perfect's ass! Thoroughly. Never mind though, such is life!

    Bri, Ok you twisted my arm - photos up, just for you! I wish I could bring myself to share the horrors of our wedding venue but it just makes me cry. Maybe one day!

    Kat, thank you! I hope you enjoy it!

  25. Jenna, you know what? It was still one of the frontrunners for best day anyway!

    Christina, thank you so much. It's so sweet of you to share my indignation. I've been embracing my anger and it's certainly helping it pass faster.

    Polka dot bride, thank you! I'm glad you didn't abandon me in my silence!

  26. Wendy, thank you and oh how I wish I had had a wedding planner like you to crack the whip and show them how it should be done!

    Flutter, thank you!!

    Sparklie, thank you sweet girl. We have a window again and our poor little car is up an running.

  27. Lizzy, thank you for your first comment, it's lovely to hear from you. And thank you for keeping the faith in my absence!

    Zoe, thank you and I thought of you after the wedding and sighed 'if only we'd had Zoe as our wedding planner...'!

    Miss Shortcake, thank you!

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  29. Thank you so much for the shout-out to my blog -! I wish you didn't identify with me since it means that everything hasn't gone perfect for you! I'm sorry to hear that the Big Day wasn't drama free - but goshdarnit - you were a gorgeous bride and your shoes were to die for. So if there's one piece of advice I have for you, it's that when life gives you lemons, make lemon drop martinis (preferably with the new shaker that you have undoubtedly received as a wedding gift). And then have a second drink and sit next to your new husband and look at the terribly gorgeous 2,270 pics of your wedding day. Then, have a third drink, get out the ole computer and write an absurdly long post about the whole ordeal and let the lovely ladies of the bridal-blog-o-sphere hear what you went through so they can provide support. OK, that's like three pieces of advice, but after the first two martinis who's really counting? Thanks again and congrats on your marriage.

  30. Oh. lady. but finally you are married!

  31. Engaged and Enraged, thank you! And thank you for making me laugh, it's just what I needed!

    East Side, I certainly am!

    Rebekah, boo indeed!


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