Thursday, September 25, 2008

A word to the wise....

Think carefully before you post those fuzzy, yellow tinged pictures your friends and family took on your blog. You might think that it's a quick way to share the first trickles of wedding porn you have, that your blogging buddies deserve a little something for all the support and interest they showed through the dark days of planning and that you can post some more beautiful pictures when you have the time to delete your eye bags but beware, you might come back from holiday and find your un-edited self all over the bloody internet.

(Not that it didn't give me quite the thrill to be mentioned on some of my favourite blogs; Frolic, A Practical Wedding and Smitten to name but a mere few. And I've got to tell you, Smitten made my mum squawk rather too. Only because she's heard of Glamour, the wedding blog world? Not so much.)

While we're handing out advise I would also like to caution you against the advisability of reading what perusers of blogs other than your own have to say about you and your wedding. While your own dear readers may leave only the loveliest of comments in their wake, unfortunately the same can't be said for everyone else's.

Which makes me oh so grateful lovely ones, that you are kind enough (read: have the manners) to keep any disgust you may or may not feel for my choice of outfit/what I 'allow' by boy to wear/my body to yourself. It's much appreciated.

(Just to make it clear, absolutely none of the readers of the afore mentioned were anything but lovely, the betrothed community know only too well that no good can come from criticising the choices of a bride once it's too late to go back. And they're just too damn nice to say mean things about a girl's scrawny physique. For which, once again, I'm grateful.)

(Image by Lillian and Leonard Wedding Photography)


  1. yikes you're famous.

    peonies, you both look fabulous. I for one am glad to see some non-photoshopped, non-wedding photo wedding photos pasted all over the place! and here's to the boy, who wore exactly what he f'n wanted to!

  2. tell me who they are and i'll kick their asses! ugh, what a load of shite... i'm sorry you had to see/read/find that. (i haven't but i get the gist). screw 'em. jealousy makes them nasty.

  3. Eejits. You're beautiful and everyone knows it.

    And screw the t*ats who want all grooms to look the same. "You know who you're marrying and you want him to be himself? Oh, how horrendous!" Ha ha ha...

  4. Oh p! how horrible! I think you looked wonderful and I'm glad they weren't photoshopped- we got to see your natural beauty and wedding day glow in all it's glory

  5. Wow, I can't believe anyone would say ANYthing about your physique. I've been reading A Practical Wedding for a while and she linked to you and I really enjoy your blog. I also LOVED your dress, so sweet and romantic and you looked beautiful and happy in it. I'm sorry to hear that the haters have got you down.

  6. Seeing your gorgeous itty-bitty arms made me realize that I didn't need the silly gauzy cover-up I was thinking about buying to cover my bony elbows. Nothing wrong with being little. I thought you were out-of-this-world gorgeous. And of course, I'm always right. :)

  7. I cannot imagine anyone saying anything unkind about your pictures - you look ravishing! I will hunt them down and punish them severely.

  8. Seriously? Someone had rude comments to make about you in your wedding attire? I ADORED the pictures of you, and never even saw anything that I thought should be photo shopped. People are idiots. Seriously.

    You looked fabulous. When I happened upon the pictures of you on the Smitten blog, I sent the pic to my best friend & said - this is the dress I'd like when I get married some day!

  9. I can't see how anyone could write anything derogatory about you, your lovely boy, or your day. The pictures show two gorgeous people in love. How can anybody find anything to bitch about? You both looked stunning and happy.

    I hope their silly hurtful comments didn't upset you too much.

  10. Fist of all, your pictures were lovely! And ohhh, whoever said rude things, I'll just kill them (and hey all, it was not my readers!)

    But, I have to say, I feel a similar fear about ours. How could I not share some after writing about the process? But I really don't want my wedding pictures getting scattered around the net. It cheapens it somehow. (Not that I would mind them popping up on friends blogs, but all over is something... weirder). I feel like I shouldn't say that, but it's true. Which is why I don't like to post real weddings with out permission. When photographers send me stuff I always say "Did you ask the couple? Are they fine with this?" Because sometimes you get the feeling the couple doesn't even know they were made internet-wedding famous.

    Anyway, I'm blathering on, but I feel you.

  11. i just wanna say that you look yummy enough to eat. nom nom nomm.

  12. Peonies, I'm so sorry to hear that there are jealous idiots who clearly have nothing better to with their time. You both looked stunning and I for one know that if I look a tenth as happy as you did, I'll be one lucky lady!

    We all love you, and to be honest, we're the best ones! :)

  13. East Side, I know, it's scary. And thank you. I guess it is kind of refreshing to see less than perfect photos.

    Redframe, thank you! I will consider sending you after them!

    Guilty, thank you.

    Polka dot, thank you. I'm glad you liked them.

    Kaitlyn, thank you so much. it helps to hear that!

    Bekapaige, I'm so glad to have helped!

    P, thank you. You get em!

    Lisa d, thank you.

    Ceecee, thank you so much. It upset me at first but I'm over it now, thanks to all the lovely comments!

  14. Meg, it is a bit of a dilemma. It's felt very odd trying to figure out what to do about sharing the details and photos of the wedding. I guess as a blogger you have to figure out where your boundaries are.

    Dubbs, thank you! Slightly scared, but thanks!

    Baby picture this, you certainly are!

  15. I am totally late to this but I had to share in the horror. It honestly pains me to think that people are making derogatory comments about you - shame on them! You're sharing your wedding photos with all of us and that should leave everyone nothing but grateful. I adore your pictures and you were absolutely beautiful. Screw them.


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