Monday, July 09, 2012

does not compute.


"I don't cook." I hear this so often and it always totally baffles me. It's usually from women about my age and it seems to be said with a subtext: 'I have better things to do'. (Of course, often it's said by men and then the subtext is usually 'don't be stupid, someone else does it for me.'  That's another blog post.)

It's not 'I don't like cooking' or 'I'm not good at cooking', it's 'I choose not to cook.' I'm not stupid, I understand that a generation of women are railing against the notion that they have to cook for their families simply because they're women and that's what women do, but the majority of the people who tell me that they don't cook are single women or women who are part of a couple. 

The decision not to do something that is so essential to one's existence seems perverse to me. Putting aside the option of eating food that doesn't need to be prepared at all (gag), there are two options, either you cook for yourself or someone else does it for you, and if someone else does it for you, what happens when they're not around? It's like not being able to wash or dress yourself, of course there are other options (wet wipes and staying in your pyjamas), but they suck! 

I love cooking and I'm not terrible at it. I love the creativity of putting together ingredients, the alchemy of doing things to them to make them taste different, but mostly, I love the ability to feed myself good food, to nourish my body and look after myself and it's that that I can't understand people choosing to opt out of. Whether you enjoy it or are good at it, surely being able to feed yourself is motivation enough to at least have a go at cooking?  That's why it doesn't compute when people tell me they don't cook. I just don't understand.